Lessons Learned #2/2016

To live 100+ do low intensity exercise most of your waking hours. Have a purpose for existence. Switch off regularly. Drink little, eat little animal products and mostly plant foods, not too much. Have strong family ties, belong to a community and hang out with people who reinforce all your positive habits.

Inspired by Dan Buettner.

In the face of unavoidable suffering, remember that you have the freedom to choose your attitude to it.

Don’t strive for equilibrium as far as your mental health is concerned. Some tension between a potential that only you can fulfill (a mission to be accomplished) and current reality is normal and even required for mental health.

If you are experiencing existential frustration (feel bored and lacking a sense of purpose or depressed), know that you’re not sick, but merely human. Find a mission that #1 makes the world better for at least one person other than you and #2 gets you excited.

Look for the meaning of life in your unique, personal situation. It arises moment by moment from the problems you and your peers experience and that require your capabilities to be solved.

When figuring out what to do with your life, forget about yourself. Think about what the world needs and how you can make it happen. The self can only be actualized once its transcended.

Think of love as a process in which you grasp the innermost traits of a human being and help her discover and fulfill her unfulfilled potentials. Notice that love has nothing to do with ownership, jealousy and constraints.

When you are no longer capable of changing a situation, change yourself.

Don’t pursue happiness. Pursue a goal that helps someone. Happiness will ensue as a side effect.

Inspired by Man’s search for meaning – Viktor E. Frankl

Share what you learn immediately after learning it while you still remember knowing what it’s like to not know it.

Success requires the following:Manage your state, emotions, reactions

  • Know what people need, what you need
  • Think and talk like the people you want to help so they accept it from you
  • Focus, learn, apply what you learn
  • Don’t focus on lifestyle design, but being useful to others. Purpose first, freedom second.

Define your criteria for success. Whether you are successful or not depends first and foremost on your definition of success. Define your idea of success before you do anything else.

Inspired by Derek Sivers.

Be willing to be wrong and embarrassed. Share your truth as soon as you know it. That’s the greatest contribution to the wellbeing of mankind.

Inspired by Colin Beavan.

When making a big decision, know that your primal brain comes packaged with some age old survival strategies that will set you back in the modern world (eg. preference for cake over celery).

If you design systems that other people will use, know that we are prone to these biases and build them in a way that minimizes potential damage (Don’t put a MacDonald’s on every corner).

Inspired by Laurie Santos.